Passion vs. Sparks

Today, I canceled my membership with online dating sites. Yep, it was my final attempt at the online dating scene, and as my previous experiences with online dating foretold, it was a complete waste of time and money. Can I please get a refund?

Why did I call it quits? Because EVERY man/match listed passion as an important factor in their love life. Now, I'm all for feeling passionate about things. After all, the definition of passion is a powerful or compelling feeling or emotion (like love or hate). However, no relationship, no matter how much love you have for the other person, can sustain passion 100% of the time. It's not possible! There are always ebbs and flows in relationships. What happens when the passion dies? Does the relationship get flushed with it? What do you have in common then?

You can, however, sustain sparks of romance. The definition of spark is to kindle, animate, or stimulate an interest, spirit, activity, etc. This is easily maintained in a relationship, and can happen multiple times a day in various ways. Sparks are a much better way to live in love than passion. Sparks help you grow, serve, and express love, desire, and honest feelings. Sparks happen in conversation, over a good meal, reading the scriptures together, or having a new experience together. Those are things that can be found every day in the little things. 

So, if any man exists that is passionate about life, learning, and being their best self, but understands that passion can never exist all the time in a loving, enduring, eternal relationship, please preserve him in stone (or through some other amazing scientific method) and let the women of the world know that there was at least one man who got it. Also, make sure to get an interview with him before the preservation so it can be sent to the men of the world in the hopes they'll get it and realize the women they should be dating are the ones who create sparks - not passion - with them. 

End of story, thank you, and amen.